High sexuality: Guys who like guys when stoned
So far 2015 has been an interesting year in the media for guys who are attracted to guys but aren’t gay. (If you can follow that, which I barely can).
First, there was the debut of TLC’s “My Husband’s Not Gay,” a television special about four same-sex-attracted men who are married to women to reject “the homosexual lifestyle” (which might also explain their wardrobe choices). Then, this past Saturday, “SNL”‘s Pete Davidson tackled the issue of “high sexuality” in a Weekend Update. The topic of online security was broached, before veering into an unexpected discussion about how when Davidson gets high on marijuana, he gets same-sex attractions counter to his usual hetero inclination.
The term “high sexuality,” meaning straight-identifying men getting gay urges when stoned, comes from a Reddit thread started in December of last year, titled “Weed Makes Me Temporarily Gay, Anyone Else?” A user posed a question about his discovering same-sex attraction under the influence of pot (but never when sober) and asked if anyone else had that experience.
A helpful user replied: “My circle calls this Highsexualism.”
“You sir, are possibly a highsexual. If the parties involved are down AND on the same wavelength, whatever. When it has occurred it’s never been a big deal.”
High sexuality has been in the Urban Dictionary since 2009, but it’s probably no coincidence that as marijuana legalization continues, it’s now coming to the forefront in a more significant way. Will Colorado have to invest in high-sexuality education and acceptance programs? Has Amsterdam long known of this phenomenon but kept it a secret? Can you really be a “high sexual,” or are you just gay (or bi) and unwilling to embrace it without a little help from Mary Jane?
One straight male friend offered a surprising answer when I asked him if he was aware of the term: “I thought that was just called ‘college.’”